A Love Worth Waiting For

Ah...love. Those four letters that everyone longs to hear. The one word that everyone can't wait to give and receive. Why are we so fascinated by it? Why is that at such a young age, little girls fantasize about being in it?

As a young woman myself, I can say that love has definitely been on my mind more than once, but I've never experienced it. I've grown up in a generation where "real" love is displayed on movie screens, in unrealistic romance novels and in countless love songs. Growing up, somewhere down the road my idea of what "real" love looked like got so messed up by society's version of love, that I completely set myself up for disappointment. Thinking that my prince charming...whatever...would show his love for me by never breaking my heart, saying all the right things, being incredibly attractive, and a hopeless romantic always coming up with the cutest things to surprise me with to prove his "love" to me. I thought that when I found this guy, I would finally know what everyone's been talking about and why this love is so great.

But who am I kidding? I've come to realize (the VERY hard way) that NO guy is like that. For one, the guys we drool over and wish were our boyfriends in the movies are all using some kind of plan to keep them looking "perfect"...otherwise they lose their status...That's not real. Two: If anything, we should be drooling over the writers of this love crap that we watch over and over again. And there's a huge chance that over 90% of those romantic movies we watch are written by women, since they know what women want to hear and see anyway. Three: Have you ever seen those guys in "real" life?...they're nothing like their characters. Why? Because even they can't act like that. BECAUSE IT'S NOT REAL.

I think the reason so many of us women wish we had the guys we see in the movies or dreamy musicians who sing beautiful lyrics is because some of us wished that really existed or at least hope. We have hope. So many of us have been heartbroken, cheated on, lied to and pushed aside that whenever we see some beautiful girl being fought for by a handsome man, we feel like there's something to hold on to. No matter how deep the wounds may be, we will always long to be loved. But as a Christian woman, I long for something much more deep. Something worth waiting for. But first, us women who long for the same thing need to get our view on love aligned with what THE BIBLE says about love, not the world.

I don't know about you, but this is the love I long for. For one, as I've come to learn, the man we will love WILL make mistakes...just like we will. That's why real love doesn't keep a record of wrongs. It is patient...it is kind. A godly man won't be perfect and say everything you want to hear, he's a man and not a mind reader. Therefore, real love isn't easily angered. A godly man we should wait for will FIGHT for you, he will not brag, he'll protect you, will be honest, he will be humble and not self seeking, he will not take pleasures in the things of this world, but in God. He will care about your walk with Christ as well as his. He will protect his heart and thoughts, along with your heart. He thinks about his present actions and how they affect you and your future family. He is a leader among men and doesn't follow the crowd. A godly man cares about others and puts himself last.

I was on pinterest the other day and came across this wedding vow from the husband. Take a look:

Wow. How amazing huh? THIS should be what gives us hope. I came out of a broken relationship not too long ago, deeply hurt by everything, swearing off all men altogether...you could say I was a little bitter and hated men. But as I started to pursue God more and just laid everything at His feet, I noticed a change in me very quickly. Usually in the times where I would linger in the state of brokenness, God gently picked me up and revealed to me that there IS someone out there for me. Someone that He is preparing this very moment. And in His perfect timing, He will bring us together for the rest of our lives. Our love story will have no ending because it was written by God and not me. So, to end this very wordy post, I want to leave you with just one more reminder and something I also found off of pinterest. Whenever you feel like you arent worth anything, worth fighting for...remember this: